Wednesday, August 2, 2017

Life Currently - Hey Strangers!








Where did July go? 

Where did I go? 

All of these questions - AND MORE - answered on the blog today! 

Happy August friends! I hope you weren't too lonely on the internet without me. 

My little hiatus was made up of three components: 

A) A severe case of writers block. If you follow me on instagram (@jaynehamlyn), you may have seen some of my rambling on there. And while I'm sure it is SoOoO annoying, it also gave me some really good ideas! So, thank you for letting me be a fool - and also, thanks for actually giving me great idea's pals! 

B) A new job! I know I keep my employment pretty DL on here, and that is intentional because I work in politics and would never want anything to come back on my employer. I want to keep my blog life and professional life very separate. So, in saying that I started a new job (YAY) and was really trying to focus on that, feeling comfortable in my new position and making sure I was 100% focused on settling in and starting my job. I didn't feel as though I could put the effort promoting / writing and interacting a new post required, and I would never want to do something half-way, so I took some time off until I could come back as committed and ready to write in a way I was proud of! 

C) Summer is BUSY!! I would love to know where the lazy, hazy days of summer are!! Between ^^ what was written up there ^^, buying a car (!!), dad being home and trying to be a tourist at home (is that a hint for an upcoming post) (maybe) (definitely) (do you want one) (????) I barely have time to breathe!! 

With all that being said, I miss it here! I love my little corner of the internet. It is currently 100% me. I am the only one who has done any of the design (if ya wanna call it that), taught myself some SEO (idk if it's working), all photos are my own -unless otherwise stated - and I'm trying to keep it really custom! 

It's a difficult balancing act and any tips on how people manage to be effective in time management - I'm BEGGING for your help! Comment below if you have any tips that might help me keep my blogging on schedule and not take over the rest of my life! 

Anyway - I am sorry this post was all over the place. I really wanted to pop back and let you know I still plan on being on here, but life has other plans lately! I just wrote, and let it go where it needed to go. 

Upcoming: 

Being a tourist at home. 

My favourite places in St. John's

Best restaurants in St. John's (on a budget) 

Stay tuned!! 


Wednesday, July 19, 2017

Stuck in the middle.



Nice shadow Matt 🙂🙂🙂

 I am living in an age of in between.

I am smack dab in the middle of people either getting married and having babies or getting black out drunk every weekend and not remembering Friday - Sunday.

My facebook feed is filled with babies, engagements and ... memes.

Some people are going to grad school and others are living with their parents.

I know someone that moved to the other side of the country and started their own business while some others are spending their time on Tinder dates.

It is a confusing time of extremes.

People can either have a one night stand or find their soul mate and either are completely normal.

Baby and wedding showers can fill my days, while making a sangria with four types of alcohol for when we get home.

I can be asked to be someone's bridesmaid or wing woman in the same day.

Friends are buying houses while others are selling their belongings on facebook for some extra cash.

Moving in with a partner is normal, totally expected and also, a huge step.

Living with all the in between is something I struggle with.

On one hand, I am no where near ready to get married, buy a house or have a baby.

On the other, I am in a relationship that I am comfortable in, can see going the distance and have my foot in the door in what I hope will be a long and fulfilling career.

I still live with my parents, but am starting to pay my own bills.

I can plan for the future.

Seeing people around me at all different stages of my life is admittedly stressful. As much as we claim not to compare ourselves to others - it is evitable. Leaving us either feeling on top of the world because: I only had two mimosa's or on the bottom because: What if I don't get to be a young, cool mom. 

All in all, you have to do whatever works best for you and your own well being. Whatever situation works best for you in the moment is 100% what you should be doing. 

I just feel very stuck in the middle. 

  

Thursday, July 13, 2017

how to accept the apology you never received.

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We all know this feeling.

You have someone in your life for months or years, you trust them.

Tell them your deepest secrets, bare your soul.

You welcome them into your world, your home and finally, your heart.

You find yourself wanting their opinion on everything from a new song, world events and politics.

They're the first one you text when you wake and usually the reason you prolong going to sleep.

Your conversations are riveting and you find yourself learning things you never thought interested you before.

Items you brushed off as not important are suddenly the top of your searches on google. Bands that weren't your type creep their way into your 25 most played.

It happens slowly, you start to pick up the way they speak. You find yourself using their slang, emphasizing syllables in ways you hadn't before.

They sneak their way in, until suddenly you're inseparable.

You can't make a move without consulting them. You don't want too. Everything seems so much cooler with their approval and so pointless without. 

Then, slowly, it fades. If you're lucky it happens as gradually as it began. 

You make it to work or school without getting a good morning text, you manage to fall asleep before their good night rolls in. 

You find out that they showed someone else a band that was reserved for your drives and hear someone else using the acronyms that was an inside joke between you two. 

You find out that you're being replaced. You are suddenly not good enough for the person that made you feel like you were. 

Suddenly your weekends are empty and theirs aren't. 

They found a new you. 

They were holding auditions and you didn't even realize your time was up.

You don't have someone - and they do. 

You can let the bitterness eat you alive. It can rot you from the inside out, make you snarky, make you mean and turn you into someone you really don't like. Or you can accept the apology they never deemed you worthy of. 

You can take what they didn't give you, and move on. 

Know that although they didn't see what you had - you can. 

Find self worth inside yourself. Find it from the smile that creeps across your face. Find it in the laughter that you bring to other people's lives and find it in the love you share with everyone, not just those you deem worthy 

Find comfort in knowing you loved and gave your heart to someone who wasn't capable of doing the same. Find comfort in knowing they left someone who would never leave them. Find comfort in knowing you did the best you could. Find comfort in being the best person you can be. 

Find acceptance in knowing that you are someone that can put yourself out there. Find acceptance in the quiet nights you spend reminiscing over the good times, but a small pleasure in knowing you've escaped from the bad. Find acceptance in yourself. 

Finally, find peace in knowing you were all you could be. You gave a piece of yourself and they took it. Find peace in the hope they will use what you gave them. Find peace in knowing you gave someone the tools to be a better person. 

Accept the apology they could never give, because you are strong enough to know you deserved one. 


Tuesday, July 11, 2017

My Top 10 Instagram Fails

I think everyone thinks they are THE BEST at social media.

Like, I have some pretty fire tweets.

My Instagrams are pretty punny on the regular.

And I have mastered the art of the Facebook share.

But, occasionally, I go back and look at what I thought was ~~~FiRe ~~~ years (months) ago and can't help but think .... Jayne what were you thinking.

Why did you need to post that ? Did anyone need to see that? Did anyone want to see that?

The answer to all of these is a resounding no.

So before I go through my social media and delete them all to save myself from cringing mercilessly, and to make my Instagram feed more cohesive I thought I would share them with you all.

I make mistakes so you don't have too.

Do as I say, not as I do.

Without further ado, my biggest Instagram regrets:

1) The bathroom mirror selfie


If I didn't want you to see the coffee stickers on my phone, why post the pic ?? Why is my head tilted?? Was I thinking too hard ?? I was at MUN after all.. 

2) The "Look at how casually I am showing you my blundstones" pic 


Oh I'm so casual, these are my new blundstones, but don't look at them, look at my average sweater. That's the focal point of the picture FOR SURE. 

Pretty sure that is also the only two times I have worn that sweater, also and I think it just made me feel artsy.

3. Look at me here just snuggling my dog.


This picture definitely has nothing to do with the fresh dye I obviously had.

4. I'm a hippy at heart


This is just a whole lot of unnecessary in one pic. Like, I literally only put my headband like that for the picture. I don't walk around like that.

Why did this happen?

5. #BlondeHairDOCare

Evidentially, I do care about the blonde hair otherwise I wouldn't have made a selfie literally only to show off my blonde hair.

Also, that angle is causing me physical pain.

6. Deep quote + A different hair colour!!!


Genuinely surprised I didn't caption this "Brunette Hair don't care" but I digress.

Just your average girl, with her average inspiring quotes, inspiring the world.

Also, using too much exposure.

7. Look at my iPhone and all the unread texts I am too cool to answer !!


If you're going to post a picture which shows your messages - YOU BETTER BELIEVE there will be some unread messages. I'm in such high demand - how could I be expected to answer them all?

8. I am an athlete, see how athletic I am?

Healthy snack and all. And some numbing cream. Could we need anything else?

Yes. This could have been better. Or not done at all.

9. The 1st tattoo mistake


I think out of all of these, this is the one I understand the most. It looks infected and gross, but I was too excited about my new tattoo to a) wait until it healed a bit to show it to the world and b) wait to get a pic from a good angle.

I just had to put it up, inflammation and all.

It is still my favorite tattoo though.

10) This is a silly selfie but I am still so cute!!!



There were so many that I could have tossed into the #10 spot, but I think this one made me cringe the hardest. I can hear the thought running through my head now I'm going to take a picture where I look so bored but still super cute! Look how effortless I am.

Enjoy these! I am doing an Instagram purge - this post hurt my soul.

And also, these post go from 2013 - 2017, so I haven't learned ...



Tuesday, July 4, 2017

Turning 22: An #UnreservedMoment

The wine + supplies for the cocktail were provided to me by Unreserved Wine. All thoughts, opinions and actions are my own. 

I don't know if anyone was aware, but I had a birthday over the weekend. 

I know I remained pretty low-key about it, but it did indeed happen. 

Later in the week, I will do a full post on How to turn 22: A comprehensive guide.

But right now I am about to CHANGE YOUR LIFE. 

So listen up.

When I have people in, one of the biggest things I worry about is what I am going to serve.  

I know most people like to #BYOB, but I like to at least provide something for people to sip on or have a glass of. It just feels like proper etiquette to me. 

I always struggle with what to serve, especially on a weekend as important as Canada 150 and my birthday!

Enter the Late Riser Smooth White Cocktail.

Not only was it a huge hit with my guests - it was so easy to make !! 

I was lucky enough to get a package with all the ingredients, but everything would have been on my grocery list anyway - which is a major plus when heading to the store and you're someone who never makes a list (guilty). 


All you need is: 

A bottle of Smooth White Unreserved Wine - which is a Canadian Brand 
A bottle of Pineapple juice 
A fresh pineapple (canned works too!!) 
Soda water (I am partial to Perrier) 
Lemon or Lime (I used both!!!) 


Make sure you put the bottle of wine in the fridge an hour or two before you want to prep! 

Fill whatever you plan on serving from about 1/4 full with the pineapple juice. Then I put in a cut up lemon and lime (washed!!!) to make sure the flavour got totally through - I love the tart taste!! 


After this, fill the container 3/4 full with your wine!! I used a bigger container - I was hosting about 15 people - so it took up most of the wine!! 


After you add your wine, I put in some pineapple chunks to add more flavour, and to eat after!! I am a big fan of fruit in wine, so this was a personal preference. Next time I might even add some strawberries! 

Right before serving, add some Perrier!! Again - I had a bigger serving size so I put in a full can, but this is really to your own personal preference! 


What I really loved about this is that I had a casual BBQ and so we drank it out of red solo cups. But it would be SO easy to do it up in a classier way and it would look cute! 

So there we go - an easy, tasty and most importantly CANADIAN cocktail!! 

What do you think ?? Will you try it?? What are your favourite cocktails for entertaining ? 



Thursday, June 29, 2017

When you know.





Do you ever find that you'll be moving along one day, thinking you have everything 100% under control and then you'll hear something, see something or something will dawn on you and it whips the ground out from underneath you ?

No?

Ok, Me either....

This doesn't happen to me a lot. But it has happened to me a couple times in my life, and excuse me for being dramatic but it really does give me a plunge in my stomach.

The first time I remember it was with my grandmother. We were talking about something when I was in high school (realistically, probably boys) and she just looked at me and said

This, too, shall pass.

I was shaken to the core. I don't know why. It isn't a novel concept. It isn't something Goggy made up, but to this day it is what gets me too so much and truth be known, I will have it tattooed somewhere at some point.

Recently, I was scrolling through twitter - probably when I should have been doing something else - and I saw a tweet from Corinne Fisher, co-host of the GWF podcast and stand up comedian.

She said:

You know how they say when you've found the right person you just know? It's also the same with finding your purpose.



All I could think about was this blog and everything I have gotten from it. Until now, I have never been one to be outrageously passionate about anything I have done. Even on my previous attempts at starting this blog, I couldn't fully commit.

I wasn't ready to find my purpose.

I have gotten so much from this blog in the short amount of time I have been fully committed to it.

I am so excited to write up blog posts, write about mental health, *try* to make you guys laugh, share what is happening to me, share what I want to happen to me and everything and anything I have left out.

This blog has given me a sense of confidence and purpose I have never had before. I am currently working on a few passion projects that I hope to eventually be able to share with you, but I am only able to work on them based on what I take away from this blog.

But, I am so happy with what is happening. I finally feel like I have a place that is solely my own. It has given me a chance to spread my wings, see what works and see what doesn't.

I have interacted with people I never would have met if not for this network of bloggers and it has caused people I had lost touch with to reach out and I think that is beautiful.

I am more confident at telling my stories as I go, and I would have never had the confidence to talk about this when it first happened, or heck. Even a few months ago, but the swell I get in my stomach when I think about coming here, it makes it worth it.

I am hooked. I have never had more determination, more drive or more fire. I am working on tackling something I would have never dreamed possible for me

I don't think I could stop now, even if I wanted too.

What keeps you coming back?


Monday, June 26, 2017

Answering your FAQ






 I know, I know.

Jayne, we have been demanding this for SO LONG.
Why keep us waiting?

Jayne, we need to know about you!! Tell us everything

JAYNE WHERE HAVE YOU BEEN ALL MY LIFE. I NEED TO KNOW EVERYTHING

Rest assured friends, I have listened and I am ready to deliver.

Q: Your fashion is so high end! How do you find such unique pieces?

A: Great question, reader #1! I shop exclusively at Old Navy and also any where else I can find a good deal. (Winners)

Q: HOW do you do your hair every day? It must take SO MUCH time and effort.

A: My go to hair style is a little something I like to call Body by Dry Shampoo. It is where you wash your hair once a week and then dry shampoo it until your hair is essentially white.

Q: What made you get into blogging?? 

A: I just had too many thoughts and not enough people to listen.

Q: Where do you get your sense of humour? 

A: I watch a lot of the Mindy Project. 

Q: How much does it cost to hire a photographer? All your photos are so professional! 

A: Great question! It's an honest mistake, but my photographer is my mom or Matt until they get too annoyed and they stop taking them :) !

Q: Cuba seems like such a well-behaved dog.. How did you train him? 

A: You just give him treats whenever he barks and eventually he sits or looks cute and I snap a pic!

Q: You seem like such a fun person! What is your favourite thing to do to pass time? 

A: I like to tell myself jokes.

Okay guys, I will be back with more as you all send in your burning questions, until then ... Enjoy your week!



Tuesday, June 20, 2017

To Me, From Me.

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 I'm coming in hot to my 22nd birthday, which means I can now

A) Listen to 22 by Taylor Swift as much as I want and really mean it when I sing "I don't know about you, but I'm feeling twenty two"

B) Call myself an adult because I have been legal in ~EvErY CoUnTrY ~ for a year

and

C) Give unsolicited advice to everyone because that's what adults do!!!!

Aren't you excited?

In all seriousness, the older I get the more I can look back and see how many mistakes I made, time I wasted and just things I could have done better.

So, I thought, why not tell yourself what you would have done differently?

Write a letter to yourself entering those dreaded teen years, so here goes!!



A letter to Myself - turning 12

 Hi Jayne!

You're entering ****Jr High**** this year and SO excited about it.

You're feeling super old and like you know everything there is to know, about anything.

A lot is going to change for you over the next couple of years so listen up!  

Stop obsessing over being on people's Summer Friends list. Because if you weren't friends already, you aren't going to be because your name is on the super exclusive list, and second of all, they aren't going to call half of those people anyway! So stop worrying. Worry about keeping your friends that are your year round friends. Crazy, I know.

For the love of goodness, spend all the time you can with your grandparents this summer. I know golf is early, and all your friends are sleeping in, but go. Cherish every single minute you spend with them. It will be the last summer this gets to happen and although you don't know it then, these will be some of your favorite memories, so don't be a brat.

Please don't wear the tiara to your birthday party next week. Just do yourself a favor, because 10 years later you're still cringing about it.

Some new kids move into your block this summer, go make friends. They are some pretty special people, and although you drift apart in a few years they really stick by you through some really tough times. Appreciate them.

Smile more!! You have very little to worry about right now, so enjoy it. Play spotlight with the kids, and eat alllll of the ice cream. You're way to young to be worrying about your weight, learn to love yourself a little sooner - you'll be better for it.

YOU DO NOT NEED A BOYFRIEND.

You are 12. I literally can't believe I need to type this. But you don't. Boys will come and go a million times over before you find one that is right, so don't start so young.

Don't kiss the boyfriend because other people say you should because, yes, your first kiss was terrible, and awkward, and just all together exactly what you expect a kiss would be at 12.

It gets better.

When you break up with the boyfriend, use a better reason than it just isn't there. You are twelve. What was it? Was it ever there??

What was it??? Ten years later, I still don't know.

My final piece of advice to you is a doozy. You don't need to be popular. Don't be so obsessed with people liking you. The girl who claims she is going to make you popular isn't your friend. If she was, she wouldn't straight up tell you that you need to change for people to like you.

Save yourself the trouble, stay friends with the people who are your friends now. Don't take them for granted. Choosing to be friends with people who only like you if you change is setting yourself up for a lot of ups and downs in the friends department, when you already have some really good ones.

Spend more time with your family. Spend time with your brother. You don't know it now but this is the last time you two will ever live together. You'll miss him a lot, so enjoy it.

Remember that you are enough, sweet girl. You'll find people who love you.

Enjoy being a kid. It goes by way too fast.


Monday, June 19, 2017

When it rains, it pours.

We often hear the saying when it rains it pours, almost exclusively for bad things.

Bad things happen in threes, and Murphy's Law also propose that bad things happen almost always on top of each other.

I don't think so.

I think we get tested. I think that things happen in a way that will test your heart. Test your perseverance. Test your will to find the good in any situation and fight like hell to bring that good to the surface.

Once it's on the surface, we can revel in it.

Father's Day was yesterday, and when I was scrolling through pictures of my Dad and I, I came across one that almost made me cry just looking at it.



It was from last July, taken at 8:52 A.M.

It was a snapchat and while we're both smiling, there is so much going on under the surface.

Two nights before, I was in the hospital.

I had the worst anxiety attack of my life (and let me tell you, there's been many), and Matt was so overwhelmed with what was happening, he didn't know what else to do.

I'll be honest. I don't remember much of it. I remember bits of being in the hospital, but I was in such a state of panic and stress that I think my body shut down as a preservation method, to prevent me from reliving it.

The hospital had to call my parents. 

Dad drove in the next morning.

I was fine after. There were so many factors going on behind the scenes that contributed to that night, I am honestly surprised it didn't happen sooner.

I'm disappointed I didn't listen to the signs that attack showed me.

I remember calling mom the next morning and telling her what had happened leading up to that night, she said

"Do you want Dad to come in?"

I said "No, I'm okay"

She said "Jayne, he wants to come in. Is that okay?"

I just started to cry, so in he came.

My parents were 4.5 hours away.

Having my dad with me for those crucial 24 hours, was one of the most comforting, uplifting, heartwarming days I have spent with him. He just held me while I cried and cried. Talked when I wanted, and took silly snapchats with me.



I really think the world tests us, by having the worst happen all at once to see how we handle it, to make us strong and to make us appreciative.

Then we get the best.

Looking back, I am so proud of how I handled myself during that time. I can look back with a clear conscious and accept what happened.

It made me appreciate where I am now.

Now, I'm good.



Tuesday, June 13, 2017

Do we deserve it?






 I am still relatively knew to the blogging world. A couple months in and I hesitate to even call myself a Blogger.

If someone asks about it I am more likely to say "Yes, I blog a little bit" and leave it at that.

Unless I am talking to my mom or Matt, in which case I won't shut up about it.

However, I can say that throughout learning about blogging and the never ending research, tweeting, instagramming, hashtags, webinars, facebook groups and pinning (I barely pin) a lot more goes into a blog than I ever imagined. I spent 40 hours a week at my real life job and at least another 40 cultivating an image on social media that goes along with my brand.

Being someone who blogs means opening up in a way that I never thought I would before. I write what I wish people had been writing when I was going through my hard times. I have taken my twitter and Instagram off private so anyone can follow me, or retweet me, or screenshot my tweets and use them on their own.

While this has increased my interaction with fellow bloggers and I have met some wonderful people, it also opens me up to the world of "online trolls" and people who think they need to get their negative two cents in.

And it hurts.

As much as I wish I was a tough girl, who could ignore the negative comments and the online trolls, I can't.

Recently, I tweeted about something that was going on in the news, and it got picked up by a radio station.

When my co-worker told me I was SO EXCITED because

A) That's pretty cool

and

B) Maybe it would bring some new traffic here, yano, a girl can dream.

So when I finally looked, I was kinda bummed to see people commenting things like:

"Obviously... Who gives a flying Hoot. The fact hits made such a big deal out of this is gross"

or

"Anyone with 2 working eyes 👀  should of been able to see that."

While I totally agree these comments could have been waaaay meaner, they also could have been nicer too.

I firmly believe we get back what we put into the world, so I never can quite understand why you would waste your time shaming someone else's opinion.

If no one gives a flying hoot, why waste your time commenting then? Clearly you do give a hoot.

Maybe I asked for this by publicizing all my social medias, but let's just try to put a little bit more positive in the world today, okay? For everyone's sake.


Friday, June 9, 2017

Please Help Me.

 My birthday weekend is in 21 days ... 21 days AND COUNTING.

I've entered panic mode.

For me, birthdays have always been a big deal. I like to have #JaynesBirthdayWeek and for the most part all my birthdays have lived up to the hype (except for that one time I got dumped on my birthday, but that's a post for another day).

(Enjoying my birthday last year, with a 2/$5 Mimosa)

I am thinking I'm getting on track with the planning I have one birthday outfit already! A gingham romper from AEO with the cutest peek a boo hole in the front. However, since my birthday is on a long weekend I need an outfit for

Friday: At work + after work celebrations (A.K.A the Simple Plan concert)

Saturday: Birthday brunch outfit + Party outfit (romper?? It's Canada Day, please help. I want to be festive for both occasions.)

Sunday (Actual Birthday): Brunch + all day outfit.

So that is 5 outfits and I only have one !! I need suggestions - where do you all get your cute / comfy yet still celebratory outfits ?? I am at a loss, even though this outfit is speaking to me and I haven't been able to get it out of my mind.. So I might have 2/5 outfits before too long...

Also, apart from Canada's birthday bash I have no idea what I want to do for that weekend. Friday night and Saturday afternoon / night are taken care of, but what else? I always feel like birthday weekends need to made the most out of. When else can you do whatever you want and people have to agree with you, ya know?

I'm definitely thinking Yellowbelly for brunch one day, probably Sunday because it runs later than most places and 2/$5 mimosas??? I am there.
But other than that, I am tapped. I need suggestions.

And a few more important questions:
  • Those big helium balloons, do you buy them yourself? Ask someone to buy them? Do they just appear?
  • What are some fun birthday themed things you can do on your birthday in St. John's?
  • Is it necessary to have "22" by Taylor Swift on for the whole weekend? Or will just the day of my 22nd birthday suffice?

I'm also very excited for this birthday because it will be the first one Matt and I get to spend together!! He was in Florida last year, and while we made the best of it, I am looking forward to spending this day with him and seeing what he has up his sleeve!!

In other news, there are exciting changes ahead for Caffeine & Big Dreams that I am hoping I can share with you all soon! I don't want to say anything until the I's are dotted and the T's crossed but I can share that it is something I am working really, really hard on and I hope you will all love it!!

Until the time that I can release this news, ENJOY THE OWN DOMAIN I HAVE. I've been himming and hawing over taking this next step ever since I relaunched, but I have been going strong for three months and it is definitely something I want to pursue, I pulled the trigger!!

That's all for now! Enjoy your weekend and please get back to me with outfit + restaurant recs!!


Wednesday, June 7, 2017

The Importance of Miley Cyrus

 


 There's a part of me that thinks Miley Cyrus at the 2013 BBMA's twerking on Robin Thick is akin to any other great tragedy. We all remember where we were, what we were doing and who we were with when we first saw it.

I was watching the awards and I remember just staring at my TV, mouth agape wondering how Hannah got here. My innocent, funny, sweet niblets Hannah was now a twerking, licking, spandex panty set wearing ... well, let's not call her anything.

But she was gone.

Her music (IMO) was better than ever, but her antics were mind boggling.

Soon after, the golden couple that were her and Liam Hemsworth was over, he was kissing someone else and she was kissing girls. It was too much for my mind to handle and you're talking to a girl who obsessively likes to keep up with the Kardashians.

Myself - and many others I am sure - attributed it to growing up in the limelight. The usual cop outs we give to celebrities who have a break down, get weird, let the fame go to their heads or the most offensive - in my opinion - She was doing it for attention.

I went with it. I was a Party in the U.S.A fan. I wouldn't make plans until after Hannah Montanna on Friday nights and if there was a marathon I wasn't making any plans.

Fast forward to the release of Malibu and the preluding interview with Billboard magazine, it's like something clicked in me. She talked about having to fall in love with Liam again, about how she's releasing Malibu because everyone is going to talk about their relationship and she wants to tell her version of what happened and where they are now and she also talks about how this album is her leaning into her roots and trying to reach out to people and create hope. As she so eloquently put it: "I don't think people are going to listen to me when I'm sitting there in nipple pasties, you know?"

TBH, I think Miley grew up. Unlike the rest of us who only has to delete pictures from our awkward, experimental, rebellious phase from Facebook, Miley's played out in front of the world.

Who doesn't go a little crazy when we get our first taste of freedom? Who doesn't do wild things with their hair - I have the brown incident of 2010 - when they get tired of the status quo? Who doesn't change what kind of music they listen to - or in Miley's case perform?

(brown incident of 2010.. who am I to judge?)

Miley Cyrus is one of the few celebrities out there who doesn't try to cultivate a perfect image. Taylor Swift rebrands herself with every album. Princess dresses for Fearless, suspenders and shorts for Red and an endless array of crop tops and bottoms for 1989. It is all meticulously planned and coordinated with little room for mistakes or anything off brand.

Miley is much more authentic. Her changes feel less like rebranding and more like her saying this is who I am now. It is refreshing in a way that makes me like her more and more. I don't feel as though there is going to be some big scandal that leave me feeling like I have gotten the wool pulled over my eyes.

Drugs? We know she was doing them and now she's not. Will she do them again? Probably but right now she has more important things on her mind.

Relationships? She's been in them. Stella Maxwell, Patrick Schwarzenegger she's been there and ended up with Liam so I don't see anything surprising coming from her.

Miley has been refreshingly authentic in a pop culture that is historically inauthentic. She admits she is now embarrassed of the Wrecking Ball video. She takes homeless children to award shows and has now started two foundations for the homeless.

Say what you want about her. She is genuine, generous and herself.

I think that is important.